So many boys and girls are still unmarried because of fake hopes given to them by movies. They are still waiting for that ideal girl and Prince charming which doesn’t exist in reality. They have been given such a wrong idea of relationship that one should not marry untill he or she finds that perfect match which doesn’t exist in reality.
In reality relationship works with compromises and adjustments, in reality relationship works only if you want it to work, Otherwise there is nobody perfect. And hence if you are still waiting for that perfect person to come in life keep waiting and if you have this expectation that the guy or girl which you have already found is perfect and he or she will act as they show in movies then be ready to get apart very soon.
The fake expectations are stopping you from getting a partner in life and the same fake expectations which you are generating in your brain because of tv and movies will also make you both go separate from each other.
You should stay sensible when you are getting into a relationship. Just accept that we all are human we all have flaws, we all are driven by our evolutionary instincts, and nobody is perfect.
See, if you decide that you don’t want to marry then it’s ok. But before making your final decision you should know what you are going to miss if you don’t marry. Tell me why do we get into a relationship, what do we get from it?
Well there are 3 things that we get from getting into a relationship 1st regular supply of sex, 2nd kids and 3rd companionship. So if you decide not to marry then you should know that you are going to miss these three things from your life. And if you can do without them then it’s ok don’t get married no worries.
But if you do want these 3 things in your life and you decide to marry then go for it at the right age then. And what’s the right age, for women it’s between 18 to max 30. Why because that’s your prime age you are more fit and fertile during this age so you stand a best chance of getting a good male at this age. Second after the age of 30 you may also start having problems in conceiving a baby. So if you want a good healthy kids and a good healthy family it’s best if you get into a relationship during your prime age I. E. 18 to max 30
Now what’s the age for men. Well for men, this age is above 30. Yes, because till this age we will have earned a little more experience a little more knowledge and a little more money. 20s is your age when you begin to work to gain all these. When you are in 20 I would suggest stay away from a serious relationship and focus more and more on learning and earning. Try to build sources of income for yourself, make investments, gain experiences and work on your physique.
Actually what girls demand in boys to get into a serious relationship with him is financially stability, psychological security, and physical safety which comes from your maturity, manhood and a good physical build and men can’t gain it all untill he crosses the age of 30. And when you are in little later stage of your 30s there are good chances you have all this. And when you have all this and you are capable of providing these 3 things to a girl you stand a better chance of gaining a company of good fertile young girls because this is all what girls actually want from a men.
And never mind the age gap because that’s something defined by human being not by this nature. In fact naturally you will also notice girls are more attracted towards men or boys who are elder to them because they can sense that maturity and manhood in them which they can’t feel with younger boys.
And once you decide that this xyz person I am going to get into relationship then no matter what these movies and TV tell you, you always remember that we all are human and nobody is perfect and we all are driven by our evolutionary instinct. We will have our flaws, we will falter, we will make mistakes. And this is why it is best not to expect too much from anyone and keep the relationship at all cost obviously until something really very serious happens. until some really very serious problem occurs.
Always remember all relationship works with adjustments and compromises. And a lot depends on you, whether you want to keep your relationship or not, and if you decide that you are going to keep it then it will remain.
Once I was watching comedy night with Kapil sharma in that episode that day his guest was Ashutosh Rana and he said such a good thing about relationship. If you all can understand just this simple thing your relationship will stay for good. He said, it’s in Hindi “जब आप relationship मे जा रहे हो तो अपनी दोनों आंखें खुली रक्खे, लेकिन जब आप relationship मे आ जाए तो अपनी दोनों आंखें आधी बंद कर ले”
