We grew up watching movies and TV shows that glorified one eternal, soul-connecting love. The kind that makes you believe your high school sweetheart is your forever. That no matter what happens, love will conquer all. But the truth? That kind of filmy love is a well-packaged illusion — and it might be setting you up for some real heartbreak.
Let’s get real for a moment.
The Hormonal Truth Behind Teenage Love
During puberty, hormones dictate a lot of our emotions and attractions. Girls — just like boys — experience a strong pull toward certain voices, personalities, or physical features. It’s not about stability or values during those years — it’s raw, biological attraction.
That’s why high school or college love stories often involve drama, eloping, and impulsive decisions. But as a girl matures, her hormones stabilize, and so does her decision-making. She starts thinking long-term — about life, career, emotional security, and financial stability. That rush of youthful love fades, and reality kicks in.
When Emotions Meet Strategy
Once the storm of hormones calms, love becomes less of a fairytale and more of a strategy. It’s not wrong — it’s just nature. Women, like men, start assessing their options not just based on feelings, but also on what the future holds.
A girl might not leave her boyfriend because she stopped loving him. She might leave because someone else offered a better, more secure life — emotionally, financially, or socially. That’s not cruelty. That’s clarity.
And yes, it works both ways. Men, too, are naturally wired to seek fertility, youth, and nurturing energy. That’s why many successful men often choose younger partners once they reach financial or social heights. It’s not about lifestyle; it’s about biology and freedom from societal pressure.
Celebrities Don’t Pretend — They Just Don’t Have to
Ever noticed how celebrities and wealthy people behave when it comes to relationships? Look at:
- Kareena Kapoor leaving Shahid Kapoor for Saif Ali Khan.
- Aamir Khan marrying a younger woman after decades.
- Rani Mukerji tying the knot with an already married man.
- Arbaaz Khan moving on from Malaika Arora to a younger partner.
It’s not just “their lifestyle.” It’s them having the freedom to follow their instincts, without the fear of judgment. What society hides or judges in middle-class families, the elite execute freely. And this isn’t just Bollywood. It’s human nature, unfiltered.
Remove the Rose-Colored Glasses
It’s time to stop living in the fantasy created by romantic movies and soap operas. The truth is raw, sometimes uncomfortable — but it’s freeing. When you stop chasing the illusion of “forever love,” you protect yourself from disappointment. You stop expecting rainbows from a reality that’s much grittier.
This isn’t about being pessimistic. It’s about being prepared — emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
Read These Books to Understand Love, Evolution, and Reality:
- The Evolution of Desire by David Buss – A deep dive into why we choose the partners we do, based on evolutionary psychology.
- Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jethá – Challenges the idea of monogamy and explores human mating behaviors through history.
- The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi – Offers a critical look into modern dating dynamics from a male perspective.
- Attached by Amir Levine – Understand the science of attachment styles and why we behave the way we do in relationships.
- The Art of Thinking Clearly by Rolf Dobelli – A great read to build self-awareness and resist emotional traps, not just in love but in life.
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Remember:
There are no unicorns, no angels, and no eternal lovers waiting to dance in the rain with you. There are only humans — flawed, emotional, driven by instincts, and shaped by their experiences. The sooner you accept this, the stronger you become.
